Smokers UGH

So this weekend my kids came home all upset from their father's house. He questioned them repeatedly about if there is anything they don't like about living with me. They love living here and they don't like being punished but who does really? Yes I spank but I've spoken to the police and I know my rights and am full well within them. I have spanked my son 3 times in one year and my daughter 1 time in that same year. I don't find that to be excessive. I always spank on the behind and yes I use a paddle brush. They don't feel my hand if I use it. They even say their father's spankings still hurt worse with his hand than mine do with the brush. Unless I am breaking some law, I won't be changing this.

They expressed to me that their father took them to some house with strange people they didn't know with some guy smoking some pipe around them. He and his whore left the room and went to a back bedroom while leaving my kids alone with this smoker and then came back out and left. It sounds to me like he is taking them on a drug run but with no real proof I'm not sure what I can do.

I cut this from another blog of mine because it really belonged here instead. -

They have been so stressed lately due to certain people's actions beyond my control. My ex is still allowing people to smoke around them so it looks as though I will have to contact an attorney. She warned him that he may completely lose his rights to see the children if he violated that part of the agreement. The kids are really upset about it and have said they don't want to go there many times lately. They love their dad and love to see him. It's other things that bother them. I hope it doesn't have to go to the extent that he doesn't have rights to get them. I hope that something gets it through his head that I'm absolutely not playing about this matter. Perhaps he needs some supervised visitation for a bit to show him that this smoking issue is serious. It was something we had always agreed upon before but somewhere along the line he lost sight of what is important, his kids' health.

Also another thing he did this weekend was to tell my children that he pays me money that is supposed to go completely to them but that I spend it all on myself. My kids told him that isn't true and that I spend lots of money on them, which I do. My daughter even told him it's okay if I spend some of their money that they don't mind sharing with me and they get plenty of stuff. In any event I don't spend much on myself and a portion of what I get is spousal support and my mother supplements my money so that I do get to do some things for myself. I can't help it if his mom doesn't do those things. Anyway I gotta go buy the tags for my car today. I must run now so I can spend more money on myself :P

Update time

Okay so I haven't posted in a long time and last time I left it very up in the air. The good news was that I didn't have anything at all to be worried about. Mon amour came to see me and well it was about as fantastic as it could be. The hard part was saying goodbye at the end of his trip. The good news? I am going there in September! We are taking things slowly but everyday with him is more beautiful. We decided after his trip that it would be easier on us if we made an agreement to see other people but... well... we found that was not easier at all. In fact it made us completely miserable because we just didn't feel like a team anymore. It felt awkward and well even though it defies all that is logical, we are now exclusive again. If we lived by logic we wouldn't be together in the first place.

I stopped blogging for so long because I have been busy with school. I am enjoying it but it kept me very busy between that and my children. It paid off though because in the end I got two B's and an A! '''yay for friends helping me with my homework and to mon amour for helping me understand the math that I found so complex. He's such a freakin genius.

Now about my kids, they are learning to ride their bikes. They've had a few spills but are doing really well! I'm so extremely proud. Also they are doing well in school. My daughter has been doing a lot better since they put her in special help classes. She isn't dumb but she does struggle to keep her focus. I'm just really happy that she isn't being held back this year.

Some recent issues that are bugging me... My ex hasn't been paying his credit card. My name is still on this card even though he is supposed to remove my name. It is so far behind that they took the payment out of my bank account. The card and my account are with the same credit union so technically yes they can do this. My only recourse would be to sue my ex. I asked him for the money but he says he doesn't have it. He got paid today so I know he does but he's apparently behind on bills and trying to catch them up. I am fairly certain he is back on drugs. He has less bills than I do and gets more money yet can't keep his bills paid. He just got a nice big bonus recently but it's apparently gone too. I know about the bonus because they deposited a large amount of it in my account. Like a dummy I actually wrote him a check for it. If I had known that his credit card was behind at that point I would have used it to pay for that. Next time he can be sure that it will go to do exactly that. I am so sick of people being so worthless that they will not pay their bills. His whore can definitely get a job if she would stay off drugs long enough to.

My kids always talk about how mean she is and that she says cruel things to them about their weight. My kids have some excess weight but they are NOT fat. This girl is about 100 lbs and looks sickly. Most people that have seen her picture can tell immediately that she is a heroin junkie. A few even thought she was a guy because her facial features are all sunken in. I tell them nah, she's just an ugly girl with serious issues. My kids also tell me she is very selfish. I've asked them not to discuss her with me unless she does something to hurt them. It really is something they need to talk to their father about but they say he gets very angry if they say anything bad about her so they try to avoid that. They know that they can talk to me if they don't like someone I am with. I believe in their right to express their opinion.

I have avoided telling them about this money situation with their father but last night I called him when he was bringing them home. He had told me he would be bringing me a check but when he was on his way said he forgot it. I stressed to him that I need that money because I have checks written against it. I had no idea they would be taking that money or that it was still past due. He told me he was at the gas station so I told him he needed to run home and get the money. He continued talking about it to me and in front of the kids so they knew what was going on. He then proceeded to call his whore and tell her all about it in front of them. Now they are all worried about this money and are very upset with him. I have tried telling them adults make mistakes but they are really stressed now. Way to go, asshole. They said he lied to his whore, too, telling her that I said he couldn't have the kids if he didn't give me the money. What I said was when you come tomorrow you need to bring the whole amount. This is true. It isn't my fault that he can't pay his bills. The kids apparently heard the whole conversation so they know I didn't say that. Also when he got here i stood between him and his car because he refused to tell me when he was bringing the check. There is no reason for him to be such an ass. Let's see, you spend your money on other things instead of paying your bills. I pay my bills on time. Which is more fair that me and your kids go without things because you didn't pay your bill or that you go without? No brainer, oh wait I forgot, he lacks the intelligence to think logically these days. Drugs will do that to you I suppose.

Anyway I just needed to vent a bit. I have housework to do and will be heading off now to do that. I'll try to post more, really. You think I'm lying don't you? I wouldn't call it a lie, just an unkept commitment, we'll say I learned that from my ex :P