Smokers UGH

So this weekend my kids came home all upset from their father's house. He questioned them repeatedly about if there is anything they don't like about living with me. They love living here and they don't like being punished but who does really? Yes I spank but I've spoken to the police and I know my rights and am full well within them. I have spanked my son 3 times in one year and my daughter 1 time in that same year. I don't find that to be excessive. I always spank on the behind and yes I use a paddle brush. They don't feel my hand if I use it. They even say their father's spankings still hurt worse with his hand than mine do with the brush. Unless I am breaking some law, I won't be changing this.

They expressed to me that their father took them to some house with strange people they didn't know with some guy smoking some pipe around them. He and his whore left the room and went to a back bedroom while leaving my kids alone with this smoker and then came back out and left. It sounds to me like he is taking them on a drug run but with no real proof I'm not sure what I can do.

I cut this from another blog of mine because it really belonged here instead. -

They have been so stressed lately due to certain people's actions beyond my control. My ex is still allowing people to smoke around them so it looks as though I will have to contact an attorney. She warned him that he may completely lose his rights to see the children if he violated that part of the agreement. The kids are really upset about it and have said they don't want to go there many times lately. They love their dad and love to see him. It's other things that bother them. I hope it doesn't have to go to the extent that he doesn't have rights to get them. I hope that something gets it through his head that I'm absolutely not playing about this matter. Perhaps he needs some supervised visitation for a bit to show him that this smoking issue is serious. It was something we had always agreed upon before but somewhere along the line he lost sight of what is important, his kids' health.

Also another thing he did this weekend was to tell my children that he pays me money that is supposed to go completely to them but that I spend it all on myself. My kids told him that isn't true and that I spend lots of money on them, which I do. My daughter even told him it's okay if I spend some of their money that they don't mind sharing with me and they get plenty of stuff. In any event I don't spend much on myself and a portion of what I get is spousal support and my mother supplements my money so that I do get to do some things for myself. I can't help it if his mom doesn't do those things. Anyway I gotta go buy the tags for my car today. I must run now so I can spend more money on myself :P