It happened...
Last night was his evening to have the kids, not really, actually he is supposed to get them Tuesdays and Thursdays but because those are days that my daughter has cheerleading I am usually nice and just switch days with him so that he may spend actual time with them when he has them. I let him switch and get them Wednesday. My mother and I were going to go see a movie because basically she had a free ticket that expires soon and wanted to get me out of the house. He called around 5 saying that he was leaving work. I said we are going to the movies at 6:30. He tells me that the only way he can be sure he gets the kids in time for us to go to our movie is if I will meet him because traffic would probably be bad. I agree to let him meet us at 6 :15. He gets there and who does he bring with him? Just so you know I have avoided ever having to see her before this point. I have told him I never want to see her. Honestly I am not sure that I can control my temper. It isn't because of any lingering desire to get him back. It is pure and simple the disrespect she has shown toward me and my children. It is the childish way that she thinks it is funny that she is with a man that is married to someone else and wants to put pictures up to taunt me about it. I told him don't EVER ask me to come meet you again. You will pick them up from my house and drop them off there and you will not bring her with you or I will have her picked up for trespassing. I also called her a whore and walked away, fighting the urge to take my kids and leave.
This completely ruined my movie. My adrenalin was pumping hard and I could not wait for the movie to end. It was Collateral, which I really wanted to see but because of his disrespect in bringing her with him I could not enjoy at all. I mean honestly if he could make it to his house in time to pick her up and bring her with him then he could have just as easily made it to my house. It was intentional and he is a liar. I called him at 8:30 when the movie let out and he said he was still at the park. He failed to mention this was a park in downtown Atlanta which is half an hour from either of our homes. He knows their bedtime is 9pm. He should have been ready to bring them home by then easily. When I called him I said bring my kids home now and do NOT bring your whore with you. He asked me what I would do about it. I said if you want to take that risk go ahead, bring her, I'll have the cops waiting to pick her up for trespassing. He said well then it will take longer to get them home because she is with us. I said too bad drop her off on the corner where she belongs and bring my kids home. He said I was being childish. I told him he was being selfish and rude. I said that whore destroyed our family and I don't want to see her. I was yelling at this point and said bring them home NOW. He said well do you want them now or do you want her not to come. I said I do not want her knowing where my house is, so do not bring her but they better be home by 10pm. It was silent for a while and my son said something in the background which conflicted with something that my soon to be ex had just told me. Basically he had told me he was taking them to the bathroom and after that they would be on their way. Fifteen minutes after that was when I heard my son saying Daddy I gotta go potty, they had just gotten in the car at this point. I said I thought the whole reason you just took that long to get to the car was that you were taking them to the bathroom. He said it was locked. Again he still has not told me he is in downtown Atlanta. So when I asked him about this he tells me will I just stop talking for a minute. As I said I had been silent for 2 minutes and simply asked him this question. Another time he told me to shut up when I wasn't even talking. He threatened not to bring them home at all. I told him if he didn't I would have him arrested and his rights would be limited to visitation with supervision because I would have him popped with a drug test. He insisted he would pass it. I really doubt that he would. He then accused me of being on drugs. I told him I was not the one hallucinating that someone was talking when they weren't. He told me I would just have to get used to her. I told him when I am ready to I will, but so far she has given me not one good reason to respect her. Also at one point my mother took the phone from me and told him to stop being such a selfish jerk and to leave his tramp at home and stop bringing her around us. He told her to put me back on the phone. She said that she would not, that he was talking to her and he could get over it. Eventually she did give the phone back to me and it was agreed that he would take his whore home and then bring my children back.
Another thing I would like to mention is that before he was to get them, I asked did he want me to feed them. He said no, he would. He finally brings them home at 9:45pm. I was waiting on the sidewalk. I'm telling you now, if he had brought her with him there would have been a problem, a big problem. I told him that when he did all this he said he understood why I was hurt and that he would try to make things easier but that he had done nothing but throw his little whore in my face every chance he got. He actually started tearing up a bit because he knows that I am right. He said I didn't even have to see her really. I said wrong, you brought her around me, it wasn't the right thing to do and that if he were in my shoes he would feel the same way. He could not disagree with that. He said eventually I would have to get over it. I said eventually I might, for now it isn't about getting over you, I AM over you, but she has done nothing but shown complete disrespect for our family, me directly and our children and I will NOT be getting over it anytime soon. I told him that had she kept her nose low and out of our business and shown the shame that someone in her position should show then I might be a little more okay with her, that they were both being completely selfish. He left and I went inside to my children.
I go inside to find that my kids are hollering about how hungry they are, he apparently took them home and gave them a small portion of spaghetti and told them he would give them more later but they had to go. Then he never got them anything else. So there it is 10pm the kids are still hungry, needing to brush their teeth, get their pajama's on and get to bed. I microwaved them some bagel bites (small bagel pizza's for those that may not know) and sat down with them. They said that the whore's child was putting her middle finger up around them. I am not really surprised by this as I haven't mentioned but the whore and jackass's new profiles on AOL now have pictures of them shooting birds at the camera. I told them that no matter what her mom teaches her or lets her do that I hoped they would make good decisions and choose not to. They agreed. My daughter said that her father told her that if his whore couldn't come to her games when she cheers that he won't be there either. She said she didn't feel this was fair. I asked did she tell him that and she said no as she feared he would hit her. I told her if he hits her I want to be informed of that. They said that he took my sons YuGiOh cards and didn't give them back. I bought those cards so you better believe I will be asking for them back. Needless to say it was a hard night.
I had someone special that helped me through it. Yes my mother helped a lot but also I was feeling very weak last night. I mentioned that I am talking to someone new, I also mentioned a lovely weekend I had. Yes it is because of that person. He helped me feel that I am handling things okay given the circumstances. My children want to meet him. They keep asking to. They have talked to him on the phone because they have a tendency of approaching me when I am on the phone and asking to speak to whomever I am speaking with at the time. They are both pretty taken with him. Perhaps it is because he makes me smile and my smiles aren't as frequent these days. In any event he doesn't live very close but luckily can come down fairly frequently when that becomes a factor. He swears that he thinks I am strong. This really helped. I'm not sure how much of what he said that I actually believed. I was not able to eat last night but at least after talking to him, I was able to sleep even after all my tears.
So here are my hopes for the future, I hope that the ex actually realizes that he is being selfish and that he needs to let me have some space from her until I am ready to deal with her. I hope that I am not just going to bring down the guy (the one mentioned above). I hope that he is actually getting something from this too because often I feel like I am getting my strength from him and I hope that he knows that. I hope that my children learn good even from the bad and I hope that I am not doing everything wrong.
This completely ruined my movie. My adrenalin was pumping hard and I could not wait for the movie to end. It was Collateral, which I really wanted to see but because of his disrespect in bringing her with him I could not enjoy at all. I mean honestly if he could make it to his house in time to pick her up and bring her with him then he could have just as easily made it to my house. It was intentional and he is a liar. I called him at 8:30 when the movie let out and he said he was still at the park. He failed to mention this was a park in downtown Atlanta which is half an hour from either of our homes. He knows their bedtime is 9pm. He should have been ready to bring them home by then easily. When I called him I said bring my kids home now and do NOT bring your whore with you. He asked me what I would do about it. I said if you want to take that risk go ahead, bring her, I'll have the cops waiting to pick her up for trespassing. He said well then it will take longer to get them home because she is with us. I said too bad drop her off on the corner where she belongs and bring my kids home. He said I was being childish. I told him he was being selfish and rude. I said that whore destroyed our family and I don't want to see her. I was yelling at this point and said bring them home NOW. He said well do you want them now or do you want her not to come. I said I do not want her knowing where my house is, so do not bring her but they better be home by 10pm. It was silent for a while and my son said something in the background which conflicted with something that my soon to be ex had just told me. Basically he had told me he was taking them to the bathroom and after that they would be on their way. Fifteen minutes after that was when I heard my son saying Daddy I gotta go potty, they had just gotten in the car at this point. I said I thought the whole reason you just took that long to get to the car was that you were taking them to the bathroom. He said it was locked. Again he still has not told me he is in downtown Atlanta. So when I asked him about this he tells me will I just stop talking for a minute. As I said I had been silent for 2 minutes and simply asked him this question. Another time he told me to shut up when I wasn't even talking. He threatened not to bring them home at all. I told him if he didn't I would have him arrested and his rights would be limited to visitation with supervision because I would have him popped with a drug test. He insisted he would pass it. I really doubt that he would. He then accused me of being on drugs. I told him I was not the one hallucinating that someone was talking when they weren't. He told me I would just have to get used to her. I told him when I am ready to I will, but so far she has given me not one good reason to respect her. Also at one point my mother took the phone from me and told him to stop being such a selfish jerk and to leave his tramp at home and stop bringing her around us. He told her to put me back on the phone. She said that she would not, that he was talking to her and he could get over it. Eventually she did give the phone back to me and it was agreed that he would take his whore home and then bring my children back.
Another thing I would like to mention is that before he was to get them, I asked did he want me to feed them. He said no, he would. He finally brings them home at 9:45pm. I was waiting on the sidewalk. I'm telling you now, if he had brought her with him there would have been a problem, a big problem. I told him that when he did all this he said he understood why I was hurt and that he would try to make things easier but that he had done nothing but throw his little whore in my face every chance he got. He actually started tearing up a bit because he knows that I am right. He said I didn't even have to see her really. I said wrong, you brought her around me, it wasn't the right thing to do and that if he were in my shoes he would feel the same way. He could not disagree with that. He said eventually I would have to get over it. I said eventually I might, for now it isn't about getting over you, I AM over you, but she has done nothing but shown complete disrespect for our family, me directly and our children and I will NOT be getting over it anytime soon. I told him that had she kept her nose low and out of our business and shown the shame that someone in her position should show then I might be a little more okay with her, that they were both being completely selfish. He left and I went inside to my children.
I go inside to find that my kids are hollering about how hungry they are, he apparently took them home and gave them a small portion of spaghetti and told them he would give them more later but they had to go. Then he never got them anything else. So there it is 10pm the kids are still hungry, needing to brush their teeth, get their pajama's on and get to bed. I microwaved them some bagel bites (small bagel pizza's for those that may not know) and sat down with them. They said that the whore's child was putting her middle finger up around them. I am not really surprised by this as I haven't mentioned but the whore and jackass's new profiles on AOL now have pictures of them shooting birds at the camera. I told them that no matter what her mom teaches her or lets her do that I hoped they would make good decisions and choose not to. They agreed. My daughter said that her father told her that if his whore couldn't come to her games when she cheers that he won't be there either. She said she didn't feel this was fair. I asked did she tell him that and she said no as she feared he would hit her. I told her if he hits her I want to be informed of that. They said that he took my sons YuGiOh cards and didn't give them back. I bought those cards so you better believe I will be asking for them back. Needless to say it was a hard night.
I had someone special that helped me through it. Yes my mother helped a lot but also I was feeling very weak last night. I mentioned that I am talking to someone new, I also mentioned a lovely weekend I had. Yes it is because of that person. He helped me feel that I am handling things okay given the circumstances. My children want to meet him. They keep asking to. They have talked to him on the phone because they have a tendency of approaching me when I am on the phone and asking to speak to whomever I am speaking with at the time. They are both pretty taken with him. Perhaps it is because he makes me smile and my smiles aren't as frequent these days. In any event he doesn't live very close but luckily can come down fairly frequently when that becomes a factor. He swears that he thinks I am strong. This really helped. I'm not sure how much of what he said that I actually believed. I was not able to eat last night but at least after talking to him, I was able to sleep even after all my tears.
So here are my hopes for the future, I hope that the ex actually realizes that he is being selfish and that he needs to let me have some space from her until I am ready to deal with her. I hope that I am not just going to bring down the guy (the one mentioned above). I hope that he is actually getting something from this too because often I feel like I am getting my strength from him and I hope that he knows that. I hope that my children learn good even from the bad and I hope that I am not doing everything wrong.
posted by Ivy | 9:40 AM
2 Comments:
Hey, you write really well. Seriously. Anyways, just wanted to say that you have my silent support. And that I hope you and your children get through this relatively unscathed.
Wow, thanks, you have no idea how much that means to me! I respect your opinion a lot because I know it's always an honest opinion no matter what. Also thanks to everyone else for being so supportive.
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