So I didn't even wait a day...

but I'm ready to write more. So the thing is this.... I figured she had to know my screen name on AOL so I took a chance and put something in my profile about my husband being an adulterer and to contact him if he sounded interesting.... maybe not the nicest thing I've ever done but it was effective at what I was trying to do. I figured she would contact me. Although she took the childish cowards way out and I will be posting the correspondence here with her but I will change the screen names, her name will be changed to The Whore, for obvious reasons. Mine will be changed to Woman Scorned, I've replaced my husbands name with Jackass (for obvious reasons) and my kids with innocent son and innocent daughter


From: Woman Scorned
To: The Whore
 
just wanted to return the favor and you made it so easy to find you too, anyway just wanted you to know you better watch what you call me in front of my kids, they don't appreciate you or what you say, and stop whoring with my husband in their presence please, what you do with him outside of their presence is completely up to you. Have a great day :P
 
 
The Response I received is as follows:
 
From: The Whore
To: Woman Scorned
 

First of all, I am not a whore. If and when you choose to address me, do so by my name. Secondly, as much as I disrespect you, I have tremendous respect for your children and their feelings. I have never spoken ill of you in their presence and (Jackass) and I always think of their well-being given the awkward situation. It is your jealousy and immaturity that is causing the majority of the confusion the kids feel. We have discussed our relationship with (innocent son) and (innocent daughter) on numerous occassions and they both seem perfectly fine with it. As much as you may hate it, they enjoy spending time with us and my daughter. Lastly, as far as (Jackass) enjoying adultery, we didn't lay a hand on each other until after he moved out of the house. My suggestion to you is that you grow up, stay out of our relationship, and please refrain from contacting me in any way. I will not play childish games with you. I am above that.  
                                                              Thanks, 
                                                                The Whore
 
 
So of course I had to respond as follows
 
From: Woman Scorned
To: The Whore
 
You have no respect for me? Let me tell you a little something, you are the one that is sleeping with a married man, whether he has moved out or not, that is adultery. The actual definition of adultery is.... a·dul·ter·y    ( P )  Pronunciation Key   (-dlt-r, -tr)n. pl. a·dul·ter·ies Voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the lawful spouse. Take note that Jackass and I are still married. We hadn't even really discussed divorce until after you and he were seeing each other. As far as the law is concerned, what he is doing now is adultery and you are his whore. Just so you know, the way Jackass talks to me when you are around is totally different than how he speaks to me when you aren't around. So much so that I have told him do NOT call me in your presence. You are correct my children enjoy playing with your child. Although they complain of her spitting at them and lying on them, but with you for a mother that doesn't surprise me. I found it rather satirical that your AOL profile says one of your hobbies is spitting on people. That also doesn't surprise me. They do not mind seeing you, it's the sleep overs they mind, the way you two go in his room and sit on the bed as soon as you get home closing the door. They do NOT consider this quality time with their father and if you think that is thinking of their well being then you are an idiot. Calling me a name in front of them was the icing on the cake though. You think I have poisoned their minds against you. I don't have to. My kids will never tell you how they feel because they said they fear they would hurt their daddy's feelings. They are the ones that asked that I get daddy to promise you wouldn't spend the night while I was out of town, because they wanted some time alone with daddy.   If you think that calling me names in front of my children is mature, you have a lot to learn. You are never going to be welcome at any event regarding them, birthday parties, games or whatever. As far as jealousy goes. I admit I was hurt in the beginning, because when he moved out, I was told that we were only separating so that we could try to work on things. It wasn't until after he sprung you on me that he started talking divorce. Now, I don't want him back in any way shape or form. He is a cheater, you aren't the first. You two deserve each other and I have found better already, however because I am not a whore I am waiting until after the divorce to begin any real relationship. I AM thinking of how this affects my children and what I would be teaching them if I did. Lack of religion does not equal lack of morals. Although you seemingly lack both, which is sad. You say you are above childish games, yet you aren't above much else. If you think having your friend contact me through aim instead of you doing it yourself, wasn't childish, you are mistaken. Have a good day and learn to watch the behavior you conduct yourself with in front of my children.
 
Since this response the only response I got from her were pictures added to her profile of herself and my husband in various poses that I'm sure she thought would annoy me, with captions saying stuff like we're so in love and stuff. Blah blah blah. Anyway I put something in my profile basically thanking her for those pics and asking for more as they will be quite useful in court. I really, really don't want him back. At this point I just want to prove to myself that I can run this household on my own and with my kids having some sense of normalcy. One thing that is bothering me a lot too is that they are smoking around the kids. He never smoked when we were together. My views on that are as follows, if you wish to slowly choke your lungs with cigarette smoke, as an adult that is your right, however kids have rights too and by forcing them to inhale your asthma, cancer, emphyzema causing sticks of death you are infringing on their right to breathe clean air. I am not a goody two shoes, but I know first hand the effects of second hand smoke. I don't want my kids having to deal with asthma attacks if it can be avoided.
 
So today for my first time ever I mowed the lawn with a push mower. I used to mow my mother's lawn but it was a riding mower. I had to learn how to start it, and keep it started, and empty the grass bag and it was sooo hot i got dehydrated and got a horrible headache but it is satisfying to say I no longer NEED someone to mow the lawn for me, as I can do it myself.... just hope that the weather cools off some! :-D I also have repainted my bathroom since he left. He had chosen the color and it was this horrid bright red, very unsettling color for a bathroom so I repainted it this color that is btwn lavender and cornflower blue. It looks great and relaxing and I enjoy bubble baths in it again :D I'll be sure to detail a bit more about the guy I referred to in my last response to the whore later. Maybe my next post